This past week, Yancy released her latest album, Roots for the Journey, and we want you to have a copy!

What started as a lullaby CD for Yancy’s son with songs all based on scripture, soon became a really nice, relaxed worship experience. The music, organic, unplugged and simple featuring upright bass, glockenspiels and cello in addition to acoustic guitars and piano, nicely accompaniments the eternal Word of God. These songs have the power to strengthen the faith of all Christians, young and old.

“Taking key scriptures and truths that I wanted to pass on to my son and make sure he knew and understood the direction and answers these scriptures provide us was important,” Yancy said. “As I worked in the studio, I realized that with how the music was shaping up and the fact that the Bible is true whether you’re an infant or a grown up these songs had more potential. Already when I meet people in my life that are facing big mountains, fears or need answers, I’ve been able to use these songs as a way to help strengthen their faith and help them meditate on what God’s Word says.”

This music is something that adults are going to love. It’s the perfect soundtrack to be played in nurseries and calming rooms of the church. A great gift to new parents and a wonderful way to partner with the families in your church with the music album and app combo.

A companion app that will help parents teach these scriptures and Biblical truths to their children through devotions, conversations, prayers, activities and more is coming soon. The content was written by Jim Wideman, Sam Luce, Amanda White, Dave and Beci Wakerley, Ryan and Beth Frank, Jenny Funderburke and many more. We believe this will be an incredible, unique resource for the whole family.

The 12 song CD includes: The Joy; Safe; Creator; Hope; His Eye Is On The Sparrow; Trust; Healer; White As Snow; Our God Reigns; Call; No Other Name; I Don’t Want To Go

To win a copy of Roots for the Journey, upload a picture or video of kids (yours or those in your ministry), singing a Yancy tune to the Orange Leaders Facebook page. You will need to “Like” the Facebook page in order to upload a picture or video. Entries will be received all next week, until Thursday, May 30, 2013, 11:59 p.m. A winner will be randomly selected from the Facebook page and contacted on Friday, May 31.

How will you kick off this fall with your volunteers?

For most ministries, the school year kicks off in August or September which brings along new leaders to serve. No matter how long a leader has served, whether 10 years or 10 minutes, it is always good to take opportunities to reinforce why you do what you do. Those of us at Orange know just how busy you are, so we wanted to create an event for you to help cast vision, stimulate conversation, and provide inspiration and training for your family ministry.

If you have ever been to a Disney theme park, it won’t take you long to realize that it really is the happiest place on earth. What makes it so great? Why do people flock there by the millions each year withstanding the heat and long lines? We wanted to know what makes Disney successful so we sat down with someone who has worked for Disney for 14 years to learn how Disney thinks Orange. This training event is called Live to Serve and it is achievable for any size and type of church. The best part is that we have done all the legwork for you. This event includes:

• Event How-To Guide
• Production Notes
• Tech Notes
• Bumper Video
• 1 QuickTime Video featuring Reggie Joiner interviewing Brian White from Disney
• Games to engage the theme
• Image files for postcards and posters that will help you promote and publicize the event
• Discussion Notes with questions to get you talking with your teams

This event will be a great way to gather your team together, shower them with love and remind them of why they do what they do. Don’t you want your leaders to get the bigger picture of what you do? Don’t you want them to say, “I can’t believe I get to be apart of this great place?” This event will do that. Your leaders will be inspired by the magic of Disney—learning things about enthusiasm, trust and even the allowance of failure. Disney reminds us that our focus should be on the guest’s experience—and that is what this event is all about.

Developed by Orange, YouLead is designed to develop the leadership skills of yourself, your team and your volunteers. It centers on answering three basic questions: What can I do to continue learning as a leader? How can I be intentional about connecting with my volunteers consistently? What can we do to stay on the same page as a team? We do this by creating materials that can be digested in 20 easy minutes. Click here to learn more about a subscription to YouLead.

by Leslie Galema

I get overwhelmed pretty easily. Take laundry, as an example. My husband and I have three children. I can work all day washing everything in our house and as soon as I fold the last clean item, BOOM! I am hit with what seems like another mountain of dirty clothes. It is never-ending. Another thing I hate about laundry is carrying it up and down our stairs and putting the clean folded clothes away. (#firstworldproblems) I know I need to do laundry and it really doesn’t take a ton of energy for me to do it, but just thinking about it paralyzes me.

Something I have noticed that helps me get started on what seems to be never-ending piles of dirty clothes, is sorting. It seems simple, but when I see a huge pile of dirty clothes I get overwhelmed, but when I sort the clothes into smaller piles, it feels more manageable.

That leads us to this week’s study of The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor. This week, I will unpack two more happiness principles, Principle #5 The Zorro Circle and Principle #6 The 20 Second Rule.

Principle #5 The Zorro Circle
How Limiting Your Focus to Small, Manageable Goals Can Expand Your Sphere of Power.

Achor writes about how Don Diego saw potential in Zorro as a sword master. Don Diego, drew a small circle in the dirt and had Zorro fight within it. Don Diego, wisely tells his protégé, “This circle will be your world. Your whole life. Until I tell you otherwise, there is nothing outside of it.”

One of our biggest drivers of success is the belief that our behavior matters; that we have control over our future. Yet, when our stresses and workloads seem to mount faster than our ability to keep up, feelings of control are often the first things to go, especially when we try to tackle too much at once.

In other words, if I wanted to lose 20 lbs., it could be easier for me if I looked at it as a pound a week. Smaller circles seem more attainable!

Zorro Circle Challenge:
Achor writes that the first circle we need to conquer is Self-Awareness.

Experiments show that when people are primed to feel high levels of distress, the quickest to recover are those who can identify how they are feeling and put those feelings into words. So, whether you do it by writing down feelings in a journal or talking to trusted coworker or confidant, verbalizing the stress and helplessness you are feeling is the first step toward regaining control.

The second circle is to identify that which you cannot control. Achor suggests that you make two columns. One column that is for what you can control and one column is for what you canNOT control. When you see what is in your circle and what is not, it literally lightens the load and feels more attainable.

Principle #6 The 20 Second Rule
Achor tells a story about his effort to learn to play the guitar and how he had tucked his guitar in a closet 20 seconds away from where he was sitting. Out of sight and out of reach, it wasn’t far out of the way but the 20 seconds it would take to get the guitar proved to be a major deterrent.

With this principle, Achor suggests that if you lower the activation energy for habits you want to adopt, and raise it for habits you want to avoid, the more we enhance our ability to jump-start positive change.

Challenge:
The key to creating these habits is ritual, repeated practice, until the actions become ingrained in your brain’s neural chemistry. And the key to daily practice is to put your desired actions as close to the path of least resistance as humanly possible.

What is that “something” in your life? Can you identify it? What can you do to make it easier and almost natural for you to practice it?

In The Orange Conference workshop Encouragement Events for Special Needs Ministry, Katie Garvert shared how her church is using MarriedPeople.org’s Can’t Wait Date Challenge as a tool to help parents to reconnect with each other and build a stronger marriage.

For several years, Woodmen Valley Chapel’s Access Ministry (Colorado Springs, Colorado) has offered regular respite events for its participating families. Katie has led the Access Ministry with the mindset that special needs ministry is a whole family ministry. And logically,  as the special needs ministry grew the church added the respite piece of programming. The purpose of the respite was to not only provide parents a break but to also provide spouses the opportunity to reconnect through alone time together. But about a year ago Katie began noticing that mothers who once showed up at respite check-in with their husbands now arrived without their spouse. Instead of heading out for a date night, parents were doing their own thing, running errands while their children were in the church’s care. As a mother herself, Katie recognized the value of a shopping trip in peace, but was sad that parents weren’t refueling their marriage during this time. At the same time, Katie noticed that some of the parents who were spending the respite time together were showing up at pick-up more tense or sad, giving evidence that the “date” had not ended well. Fresh off these observations, Katie felt burdened to work more proactively to help the marriage inside the family with special needs.

That desire led Katie to MarriedPeople’s Ted Lowe.  Many parents of kids with disabilities need help connecting with each other. Katie wanted to give these parents something that would keep them focused on each other and with a tool that would facilitate constructive and encouraging conversation. Ted introduced Katie to the Can’t Wait Date Challenge Kits and Woodmen Valley Chapel began using them in conjunction with their Access respite events. As parents dropped off their children at respite, they were handed a CWDC script to go through together and during their time without their kids. Katie shared in The Orange Conference workshop that the response was immediate and rejuvenating to the whole ministry. Parents were again going on dates (rather than running independent errands). And more importantly, the spouses were arriving at pick-up giving evidence of a positive and uplifting time together.

“We realized that these parents had forgotten how to connect. They didn’t even know what to talk about aside from managing life details, usually related to the complex needs of their children. And many of these spouses had forgotten how to laugh. The ‘Can’t Wait Date Challenge’ questions gave our couples fun conversation starters. And for the first time, husbands and wives were focused on each other. And we saw this in their eyes and attitude when they arrived to pick up their children from respite. I honestly had no idea that adding this simple tool would have such a huge impact on the families and in our entire ministry.”  ~ Katie Garvert

Can't Wait Date Challenge Sample Questions

Katie Garvert is the Access Ministries Coordinator for Woodmen Valley Chapel in Colorado Springs, Colorado. WVC currently serves 70 individuals affected by special needs. Over the past eight years, Katie has helped WVC establish special needs inclusion programming over virtually every age group and stage of life for this multi-site church. The Access ministry hosts a parent support group, regular parent respite events, sibling retreats and summer camp experiences for children and students with special needs. Prior to joining the WVC staff, Katie was a special education teacher in the Colorado public school system.

Originally posted on The Inclusive Church blog, May 6, 2013. Used with permission.

If you attended OC13, you probably took a stroll through The Gallery space at the back of the Arena. And if so, we hope you hung out for a while and had a lot of fun. In case you missed it, The Gallery was a first at The Orange Conference. It was an interactive museum divided into three main areas—preschool, children’s and students—and reflected the conference “Focus” theme. Each section was unique in look and in feel, but used the common thread of wonder, discovery and passion, Orange’s three key concepts and teaching tools. Marbles were also featured in each space due to the release of Orange founder Reggie Joiner’s new book, Losing Your Marbles, which stresses that “every week matters” for parents and leaders.

It was a really incredible undertaking, and we were excited to work with a number of talented artists in the process. A huge thanks to these amazing people! Below we’ll list their websites so you can continue to support them from home.

CARPENTERS
Atlanta City Builders
http://atlantacitybuilders.webs.com/

PAINTINGS
Hannah Joiner
http://www.krop.com/kairosoul/

PRESCHOOL PHOTOGRAPHY
Kelley Ryden
http://kelleyryden.com/index2.php?v=v1#!/home

Kelle McEntegart
http://www.kellemacphotography.com

Kathleen Bowie
http://www.kathleenbowiephotography.com

CHILDREN AND PRETEEN PHOTOGRAPHY
Patrick Schneider
http://www.patrickschneiderphoto.com

STUDENT PHOTOGRAPHY
Andy Brophy
http://onenineimages.com

If you’re a subscriber to YouLead, you’ve noticed a change in our Socials over the last few weeks. In addition to email copy you can send to your staff and volunteers, we’ve now included Twitter, Facebook and Instagram post copy and ideas.

Here is the Social content for the topic of “Appreciation:”

YouLead Social: Appreciation 01

• Monday: Do for 1 what you wish you could do for everyone, knowing that everyone isn’t going to be treated the same way. #DeepWide
• Tuesday: YOU make a difference every day! Thank you for all you do! http://bit.ly/6Lphx
• Wednesday: “We make a living by what we do, but we make a life by what we give.” –Winston Churchill #Appreciation #Volunteers
• Thursday: Appreciation Matters: http://bit.ly/A5FA1p
• Friday: We always appreciate you! http://bit.ly/10uWRXm

• Monday: “When you widen the circle, the goal is to have other trusted adults in the lives of children before they need them so they will be there when they need them.” –Reggie Joiner
• Tuesday: Thanks for being the trusted adult in the lives of children here at [insert church name here].
• Wednesday: “We make a living by what we do, but we make a life by what we give.” –Winston Churchill
• Thursday: Appreciation Matters: http://bit.ly/A5FA1p
• Friday: A bit of fun mixed with appreciation for our volunteers! http://bit.ly/10uWRXm

What you do matters—even when you don’t always see it. Sometimes, it’s the kids you think may not hear a word you say that will one day surprise you the most. Listen to this volunteer’s story:

I’ll never forget the first time I met Matt. He showed up at a lock-in at the church just before we locked everyone in, and there was the subtle smell of beer masked by the combination of peppermint gum and peanut butter. It would’ve been easy to tell him he wasn’t welcome and to go home; but something told me to invite him in to stay for the night. He sat in the corner with his buddies while we worshiped and fell asleep during our youth pastor’s message. But the following week, Matt came to church on Sunday morning. Then later that year, he signed up to go on a summer mission trip. It was a struggle for him to spend a whole week without a cigarette and while he worked really hard, he muttered on our return that the only reason he went was because he had never been to California. Sometimes, it was hard to love Matt but because he showed up every week, I made sure I connected with him, gave him a hug, and I went to his baseball games because his dad wasn’t around and mom was usually too intoxicated to show up. Matt graduated from high school and I honestly didn’t know if he really ever connected with his faith or made a decision to follow Christ—every time it came up he made a joke and changed the subject.

Facebook reconnected Matt and I a few years ago. While his life continued on a rough journey after high school, those seeds that were planted eventually began to grow. Matt got married, had a few kids of his own, and connected with a great church. He and his wife have become foster parents and have a heart for troubled kids—because they both came from unstable homes growing up. When it was my birthday, Matt wrote me this note on Facebook: “Happy Birthday to one of the most influential people in my life. Your example of what it means to be a follower of Jesus always stuck with me and I only hope that I can also be that kind of influence for my own kids and the ones my wife and I open our home to in foster care. Thank you for believing in me when I didn’t believe in myself.”

Leaders: Know how much we appreciate you and the time and love you give to our kids and teens every week. Never doubt that the seeds you plant are rooted in good soil and will bear much fruit for years to come.

Thank you for walking alongside our kids in faith and love at [insert church name here]. You’re influence will carry into the futures of our young people.

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Developed by Orange, YouLead is designed to develop the leadership skills of yourself, your team and your volunteers. It centers on answering three basic questions: What can I do to continue learning as a leader? How can I be intentional about connecting with my volunteers consistently? What can we do to stay on the same page as a team? We do this by creating materials that can be digested in 20 easy minutes. Click here to learn more about a subscription to YouLead.

By Leslie Galema

Picture it: It was December 2003, on the north side of Indianapolis, a young, soon-to-be-mom was counting the last few weeks of her pregnancy and trying to pass the time, when she remembered her husband had an Xbox. And so . . . she spent the next weeks addicted to Tetris. Not only that, but she also discovered that she could play CDs while she played—this thrilled her because she’d just bought Jessica Simpson’s new album, “In This Skin.” What luck! (smirk)

Would you believe that girl was me? It’s true. I am a recovering Tetris addict and Jessica Simpson fan. Anytime I hear a Jessica Simpson song, I am transmitted through a time portal to being “great with child” and a master at Tetris. I was fast and I had a great strategy! I could do it without thought, I was a machine! (No, my unborn child, was not harmed by my indulgence in such entertainment and has turned out to be a pretty great 9-year-old, thankyouverymuch!)

That leads us to this week’s study of The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor. This week, we’ll unpack two happiness principles, Principle #3 The Tetris Effect and Principle #4 Falling Up.

Principle #3 The Tetris Effect
Just as Jessica Simpson triggers an urge in me to play Tetris, others have said that if they play Tetris for an extended period of time, they catch themselves naturally playing it during ordinary day-to-day things. One person admitted that while grocery shopping, He was looking at the cereal boxes for shapes and sizes to make them match.

In our work and personal lives, we are often rewarded for noticing the problems that need solving, stresses that need managing, and the injustices that need righting. The trouble with this is that we miss out on the positive. The good news is we can retrain our brains to scan for the positive! William James once said: “My experience is what I agree to attend to.”

Tetris Effect Challenge:

The best way to kick start retraining our brains to look for the positive is making a daily list of the good things in your job, your career, and your life.

Write down a list of “Three Good Things” that happened to you each day and your brain will be forced to scan all the positives. A variation on the Three Good Things exercise is to write a short journal entry about a positive experience. It makes the meaning and purpose in your job more apparent, so that you can start connecting to your calling, making you happier, which means your brain will be functioning at a high level for more of the time! GO!

Principle #4 Falling Up

The most successful people see adversity not as a stumbling block, but as a stepping-stone to greatness. Take Michael Jordan, for example, who was cut from his high school basketball team, or Walt Disney who was fired by a newspaper editor for not being creative enough. In their successful careers, these men describe those moments of “falling up” as a learning experience that shaped them to who they were to become. Michael Jordan once said, “I’ve failed over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan knows what it means to “Fall Up.”

At the end of this chapter, Shawn Achor writes:

Above all, remember that success is not about never falling down or even simply about falling down and getting back up over and over. Success is about more than resilience. It’s about using that downward momentum to propel ourselves in the opposite direction. It’s about capitalizing on setbacks and adversity to become even happier, even more motivated, and even more successful. It’s not falling down, it’s falling up.

Challenge:
It is humbling to me that, while God could have chosen any way to tell His story, He picked us. We are constantly messing up and that is exactly why He chose us! God is not concerned with the perfect picture, but our stories of restoration! Below are some questions to journal about this week:

What are some of those “falling up” moments in your life?
What did you learn about yourself?
What did you learn about people?
How can failure in your life benefit your leadership and your team?

by Jeff Shinabarger

The less I try to do everything, the more I value the abilities and gifts of the people around me. Just after returning from a sabbatical where my wife, Andre, and I spent considerable time choosing priorities and prioritizing family, I promised to speak at two different events on consecutive nights of the week. When I sheepishly reported my plan, she reminded me of our shared commitment.

I hate having to call someone back to change my answer, but knew it was the right thing to do. This is when I stumbled upon a significant truth. Every opportunity not right for me brings an opportunity for someone else. When I claim more than what I can handle, I limit the opportunities for another person in my community. In essence, when we choose to do what we ought to do, forsaking all else, we create opportunities and access for others.

When I declined the speaking opportunity, I asked if I could recommend a friend of mine who would be incredible for their gathering. This created access to a new opportunity for him. My “no” turned into someone else’s “yes.”

Have you ever stopped to think about how you have arrived where you are today? I guarantee you that someone gave you an opportunity. Someone believed in your abilities and gave you a platform to live out what it is that makes you breathe today. Don’t we all want to be part of a community that has the best interest of others at its heart?

The greatest love you can give a friend is to help him or her find and achieve their calling. Let me say it another way. My greatest responsibility as a friend is to help others discover what only they are made to do. I want to be involved in a community that does everything possible to help each other find the unique value that only they can contribute to the world. I want to be a part of a community that works together to create platforms for that talent. I want to do less, so my friends can do what only they can do.

When you think about your aspirations for your closest friends do you really want them to succeed? Are you willing to celebrate their victories the way you’d celebrate your own? Wouldn’t you love to join a community of people helping each other pursue their dreams, aspirations, and purposes?

It starts with you and it starts with me. As you walk through your day, think about the people you love. How can you use your influence to help them succeed? What access do you have that can further the calling of a friend? When you give your opportunities and energy to serve the calling of others, everyone wins.

Jeff Shinabarger is the author of More or Less: Choosing a Lifestyle of Excessive Generosity. He is a social entrepreneur, experience designer, cofounder of the Q event, and creative director at Catalyst. He is also the founder of Plywood People, an innovative community addressing social needs through creative services. He’s been featured in national media such as CNN, NPR, and Relevant Magazine and has been interviewed by the Atlanta Journal-Constitution and the Chicago Sun-Times, among others. He and his family live in East Atlanta Village.

Many of your college-age students have been away since Christmas break and more than likely, you’ve lost contact with them. (By contact, I mean more than just knowing their Facebook or Twitter updates.) So, what’s the best way to capitalize on these upcoming summer months for reconnection? Here are three ideas:

• Move toward them, not the other way around. If you wait around for your college-agers to contact you, it may not happen, or it’ll happen in August when they’re heading off again. Initiate a conversation before they come home—like now. Reach out to say you’d love to connect at some point when they get home.

• Buy them something to eat or drink. Free food never gets old. And hopefully, the latte, or burger, lends itself to meaningful conversation that will lay the groundwork for more connections throughout the summer.

• Invite them to your house/apartment/domicile/abode. Face it, conversations tend to go deeper and more vulnerable in your living room, than they will in, say Dairy Queen. Inviting someone into your space is also a way of communicating that you trust and enjoy them. Free food is also appreciated in this setting as well.

With each of these ideas, remember that you’re there for them, not the other way around. So, be a good listener, letting them process what’s happened this year without adding a bunch of personal commentary. (Sometimes commentary is necessary. As a general rule, however, listen more than you talk.)

Come August, the goal is to leave them heading back to school knowing that you genuinely care about who they are and how God is working in their story.

Abbie Smith is the co-author of The Slow Fade, and a writer and partner support for XP3 College. Abbie’s latest book, Celibate Sex: Musings on Being Loved, Single, Twisted, and Holy, is now available at most online retailers.